Wednesday, October 5, 2011

{ Pacifier Weaning }


Well, the time has come for Miss Tabi to say goodbye to her pacifier. At 19 months old she's developed quite the attachment to her "bai" as she calls it. And as I know it, there are two ways to go about weaning her from her pacifier - cold turkey and cutting the tip. Going cold turkey theoretically is like ripping the band aide off it will hurt at first, but it will be over quicker - no need to draw out the process. Cutting the tip is more of a drawn out process that hopefully will lead to your kiddo giving up the paci on her own.

With P we did most things cold turkey style and that worked for her, but luckily she never took a pacifier so this wasn't a battle we had to choose with her. With Tabi, let's just say we've already tried taking her "bai" away. At 8 months Dr. dad said the Soothie had to go because he was concerned about her palatal formation (yes, for those of you who don't know dad is a dentist). So we took it away figuring that we might as well get rid of it sooner than later. After a week of crying at bedtime, crying in the middle of the night and all around misery for the whole family we replaced the Soothie with an orthodontic pacifier, which she welcomed with a giggle. So, needless to say I wasn't too keen on trying the cold turkey route again with Tabi - so cutting the tip it was!

I know people who say that after one night with a snipped tip their kiddos gave the paci up. At the long end of the deal I've heard friends say that it may take a week. So last Monday we gave her pacifiers the old snip snip:


The second I gave Tabi her altered pacifiers she knew something was up and went back and forth between the two wondering what was wrong as I rocked her. I wasn't quite sure whether to laugh at the scene of my astute toddler or cry because well, I'm a silly mom and I was sad to take away her dear friend (which by this point was actually hindering her from sleeping well since she required it in her mouth at all times through the night). The first couple of nights involved some crying, but I can imagine that there would have been more if we merely put her to bed without her friends - the bais.

A week later, I don't think that she sucks on the pacifier any more but oddly enough they are like her stuffed animals and she takes one to bed with her. So just to make sure that she isn't sucking anymore, I've made the progressive snip for tonight:


For those of us blessed with particularly strong willed children that don't give up easily on their pacifiers, the idea is that each week you progressively snip more of the tip off until there is no longer anything to suck on; just a nub.

Luckily for us, I think that the "bai" is just her snuggle buddy at this point; but tonight will tell whether I'm right or wrong. Please pray that I'm right! Being strong for your kid sucks in the moment and that's the truth. I hope that we're past that part though and that tonight is smooth sailing when daddy puts her to bed.

What have been some of the hardest things that you've had to do for your kiddo's well being?

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Kristin said...

This was a good read. For us the hardest thing has been...and continues to be...the sleep. Oliver still wakes up once or twice most nights and sometimes will be up for an hour or more--TORTURE. We have decided that it's time to take the hard line approach with the night waking, though we haven't fully outlined our strategy yet. Stalling?? Not looking forward it anyway.

Paige said...
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Paige said...

Oh, I hope she sleeps well and the "bai" weaning is over! Good work momma. You'll have to let us know how it went.

mollyt said...

Good luck and I hope the bye to bai went well! My first son was 28 months when he lost his pacifier during a nap. We had been want to get rid of it but weren't ready to listen to the crying! As luck would have it, he went to bed okay that night with just a little fussing and the next day we went to grandma's for several pacifiers at grandma's! My second son I think mostly uses the pacifier as a lovey. Sometimes he chews on it, but it is pretty rare to actually catch him sucking on it. Last night, after his middle of the night nursing, he did look for it when i put him back in bed. We'll see how it goes when it's time for it to go away. Oh and btw, I am no dentist, but I was pleasantly surprised at how quickly my older son's teeth went back into place as soon as he stopped using the pacifier (which was sleep use only.) I could tell a difference within a week.

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